My father is killing himself

09:59 ص ‎19/‎05/‎2008
My father is killing himself
I don't know from where should i start this story but i will try to be organized in it as much as i can.
My father used to be so thin when he was young, so active, so social (he ran the disco of the sports club), so rich (which ended as soon as my grandpa died) and also hyperthyroid, he had to have a thyroidectomy to be cured but since he did it he gained some weight and with some i mean in the average of overweight and not obese, anyway, back to that time when my grand pa was alive (mercy be upon him) he could manage that weight gain and he fought it with diet and exercise and he acheived a great body not thin but still atheletic and attractive, after that he kept swepting between up and downs in his weight but still no problem.
The problem began in some years, he started eating with no count or judgment, he gained a lot of weight till he became obese, however he made some things that made his weight slightly under control but he never got his old good shape again, but then few months ago he stopped checking his weight and began to gain a lot of weight.
My father's problem in diets that he thinks that the best one is to stop eating for three days except for yoghurt and then his biology will adapt to starvation and then proceed to lose weight as much as he would like, this plan failed may be 10 times as on the third day he buys a very large feteera meshalteta (a cooked combination between weight and pure ghee), pure natural honey and of course pure natural cream, this meal as it may be named the meal of relapse, after this meal he starts to eat even more than before.
Many of my father's friend talked to me that i must advice him about his weight problem, the problem is that he hates doctors in general and i unfortunatly fell into this category the day i joined the medical school, - about the reason why he hates doctor and think they are all frauds that doesn't understand anything of what they are doing isn't certain yet, may be because he befriended two doctors when he was young whom i may call the scum of medical school, may be because his parents died because of medical problems and one of them died in a hospital, i don't know - anyway, i tried to tell him that his plan isn't never going to work and i told him that gradual decrease in the amount of food with gradual substitution of junk food with healthy food is the best thing to acheive his target, but all my tries have gone in vane.
The problem also that he believes in the groundless weight loss procedures like sauna belts and that sweating means losing weight(so wearing very warm clothes during exercise helps you lose more weight), also in herbs and such stuff.

Now he is drinking green tea every morning as a measure to help him lose weight plus drinking everyday one to two litters of pepsi plus drinking one liter of tang (a sugar solution which is coloured and flavoured) of course plus his other meals that is completly beyond the daily recommended caloried, with this system he is gaining a lot of weight recently and he is gaining without counting or weighing himself(i don't think he will weigh less than 130 kilos today) he is gaining and not thinking of the consequences he is gaining with no intention to stop. I think if he continues like that he will die not so far from now with a stroke or something, i am sure his cholesterol is hitting the roof and his heart can't handle such a load (i think he had heart problem when he was younger).
I wrote all the above lines just to say that my father is killing himself and i don't know what to do whether to leave him do what he want as he is no kid he is a grown up and knows where is his good or to tell him that he can't go on, and actually there is something that is stopping me from advising him anymore, i think that when i was younger when i needed some advice from him, he never gave to me any, and that lead me into a problem which i am living now and makes me feel sorry for my self as i must have got some advice when i was younger to help me not to fall in such a problem then and now, he never played his role as a father well when he had to and -so- i don't think i should play the role of the good son either now.
What goes around comes around that role that makes me want to have no children in the future as i don't want to repeat the tragedy of "him with me"
with me OR the tragedy of "me with him" with my kids.